“Creating Positive Change” Series – Part 6

By Dr. Paula Fellingham

My fifth book is titled “Believe It! Become It!” One of the beliefs I teach is this: Speaking Positively is the Key to Joy and Confidence. Let’s talk about it.

Who do you admire most in your life? Who are you drawn to? Usually it’s the joyful ones who smile, laugh, compliment others and radiate happiness.

“I create my own happiness” is part of this belief. Do you believe this?

Happiness is all about focus. Whatever you focus on pulls you in that direction, either negative or positive. So the secret to happiness is to choose to focus on the positive, no matter what. Abraham Lincoln reminded us, “Folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

There’s a vast amount of research on this.

An experiment conducted at Stanford University by S. Lyubomirsky, in 1994, concluded that: “Happy people do not experience one success after another and unhappy people, one failure after another. Instead, surveys show that happy and unhappy people tend to have had very similar life experiences. The difference is that the average unhappy person spends more than twice as much time thinking about unpleasant events in their lives, while happy people tend to seek and rely upon information that brightens their personal outlook.”

My friends, we should stop seeking out the storms in our lives and enjoy more fully the sunlight. Yes, as we go through life let’s focus on what we have, not on what we don’t have. Accentuate the positive. And when we do, we’ll receive more. This is the Law of Attraction, and it’s been in place since time began.

How can we accentuate the positive? Exactly how do we create happiness? How do we create joy and confidence?

I’ll share 10 ways to create joy and confidence ~ beginning in this blog and continuing in blog #7 in my series of 12 on “How to Create Positive Change”.

  1. Think gratitude. Pay attention to what you have and to the good things about your life. Think about your talents, gifts, blessings, and material goods. Talk about how blessed you are. Share your gratitude with others. Thank God for what you have and focus on everything that touches your life for good. Many of these things are intangible. Think on those, also ~ like the love and kindness shown to you by people in your Circle of Life.

Dale Carnegie remarked, “Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. It isn’t what we have or who we are, or what we are doing that makes us happy or unhappy. It’s what we think about it. For example, two people may be in the same place, doing the same thing, and yet one may be miserable and the other happy. Why? Because of a different mental attitude.”



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Ambassador Mohktar Lamani, Former Director of the OIC (working with all Islamic Nations) at the United Nations

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Jill Donnelly, Former President of the World Movement of Mothers, Paris, France

“Paula, you’re doing wonderful things to strengthen families in America. The good work you’re doing is needed now, more than ever before in the history of our world, as we sadly watch the disintegration of the family. It’s happening in every nation on the face of the earth. If only we had more women like you to lead families toward a brighter tomorrow!”


Deneen Morgan-Burley, Baltimore, MD

“Paula, I want to take the time to thank you for doing this for WOMEN. We need all of the encouragement, mentoring, and uplifting that we can get. More importantly, however, we need the LOVE. That’s what each of us felt radiate from you. I am grateful that our paths crossed and we are now a part of one another’s lives. I am so happy and thankful to be able to step forward and serve. May we continue to let our light shine as we do all we must to continue to be “Women Helping Women to live Our Best Lives.” God bless you. Keep smiling and making a difference in the lives of other women.” 


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