By Dr. Paula Fellingham
To quickly review, in my previous video (number 10 of 12 in this series), we discussed “Becoming Your Ideal Self by Vividly Imagining and Acting As If”. The first step in the process is to set high achievable goals. Key steps re: setting your goals was the subject of blog #10. Steps 2 – 7 are what I’m going to talk about now. Detailed information about this subject can be found in my book “Believe It! Become It!”
- Write Your Goals in Detailed Specifics
This is of upmost importance. There was an experiment conducted in 1985, with 100 high school students who all decided on future goals. Fifty of the students talked about their goals but never wrote them down. Fifty students wrote their goals in specific terms and set time limits. Ten years later the students were questioned. Of the fifty students who didn’t write their goals down, 15% achieved them. Those who wrote in specific details with time deadlines, 92% achieved their goals!
Give your mind a clearly-defined goal it can envision and work toward. Here’s a good example: “I will give the presentation to 12 people before Friday at noon.”
- Give Yourself a Time Limit. You want dreams with a deadline.
- Break Goals Into Small, Do-able Steps.
No matter how large the task, it is infinitely easier when broken down into daily tasks.
- Consistently and Enthusiastically Take Action
Tom Peters said, “Nothing good or great can be done in the absence of enthusiasm.
When the alarm goes off and you know that means work-out time, instead of thinking “Oh, man…there is no way this body can get on that treadmill” Think instead, “Okay – mind over mattress – here we go again – another chance to turn this body into a macho machine or raving beauty!” Have fun with it…your subconscious is paying attention!
- Notice What’s Working (or not) and Reward Yourself Along the Way
Using positive reinforcement is the best way to learn (and teach)!
For example, if your goal is losing weight, then immediately reinforce the slightest progress. The moment you choose to walk by the cookie jar instead of reaching in, say to yourself, “Good job! I feel great at 138!” Or, “I feel fine at 209!” (Or whatever is your ideal weight)
- Continue to Make Course Corrections Until You Achieve
All airplane pilots, CEOs and ship captains understand this: staying on-course as you progress toward your goal requires course corrections. From time to time, as you move toward your goal, you’ll veer a little to the right or to the left because distractions and obstacles are inevitable. Count on them; don’t let them discourage you. Make course corrections and get back in the groove.