“Creating Positive Change” Series – Part 10

By Dr. Paula Fellingham

The third belief I discuss in my book “Believe It! Become It!” is this:

“I Become My Ideal Self By Vividly Imagining and Acting As If”

Before we can talk about becoming our ideal selves we need to understand the importance of setting high, achievable goals. Every successful person I know sets both long and short-term goals.

George Bernard Shaw said, “Some men see things as they are and say, ‘Why?’ I dream of things that never were and say, ‘Why not?’”

Carl Sandburg wrote, “Nothing Happens Unless First a Dream”

Out challenge? To turn our invisible dreams into measurable realities.

Imagine a pilot coming over the intercom and announcing: “I have some bad news and some good news. The bad news is we’ve lost one engine and our direction finder. The good news is we have a tail wind and wherever we are going we’re getting there at a rate of 600 miles an hour. People often fly along like that – directionless, but being pushed swiftly along by the winds of circumstances.

I love the story about the time Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes misplaced his ticket while traveling on a train. Watching him fumble through his belongings and pockets in growing frustration, the conductor said, “Don’t worry about it, Mr. Holmes. I’m sure you have your ticket somewhere. If you don’t find it during the trip, just mail it in to the railroad when you reach your destination.” Holmes looked the conductor in the eye and said, “Young man, my problem is not finding my ticket. It’s finding out where in the world I’m going!”

I’d like to share with you my 7 Steps to Success re: going from where you are to where you want to be.

  1. Choose Only Those Goals You Deeply Care About and Are Absolutely Committed to Achieving

The more deeply you are convinced of the absolute necessity of reaching your goals, the more tenacity you’ll exert as you work toward them.

How do you decide on your goals?

  • Go somewhere alone
  • Think deeply and slowly about the most important things in your life
  • Carefully consider where you want to be in ten years

Ask yourself, “What do I want to be doing in ten years? Who do I want to be with? What do I want to look like? What do I want my life to look like?

  • Then think about your life in five years…in one year…in six months…in one month.
  • Create detailed, visual pictures in your mind of your ideal self and your ideal life
  • Use my “I Dr.” 3-Step Formula:
  • Identify your goals
  • Decide which are highest priority
  • Resolve to focus like a laser beam




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